Friday, 5 October 2007

...Then Comes Marriage...

First comes love, then comes marriage....

Or so the story goes. I just don't think that little scenario works very well nowadays. Or at least not for us... and almost everyone around us.

I'll admit, marriage is the least of our priorities lately. According the Canadian government, Terry and I are as good as married anyway. And that suits us just fine. Actually, a lot of people seem to be thinking in the same way as we are this year. The census came out and for the first time ever, there were more single people living in Canada than married people.

Data from the CBC:

The data shows 51.5 per cent of people over age 15 were unmarried in 2006, marking the first time married people have been outnumbered in the census, which began nationally in 1871.

In the last census, in 2001, 49.9 per cent were unmarried.

I see that trend wherever I go lately. It's actually kind of funny because Terry and I both thought that we were going to get a bunch of the "When are you getting married?" questions after we announced that we were having Logan. Only one person raised the question. And this I had to hear secondhand from Terry's mom who was asked if we were getting married after sharing the news of her new grandson's imminent arrival. It was a bit of a surprise to say the least.

But knowing our friends, of course that question wasn't even in their minds. Logan's godparents have been together for nearly as long as Terry and I have been and they have no immediate plans to rush down the aisle (at least as far as I know!) My brother and his girlfriend are quite comfortable sharing their lives without getting the old blood tests and marriage certificates. And there is always the most obvious one, Terry's parents have been together for decades and there isn't a wedding bell in sight. It would seem that in our lives, marriage is an old fashioned concept.

To be fair, all the examples above could in fact tie the knot in the future and it would be a joyous occasion. But the thing is, they don't have to and that's what makes me ask this question:

In today's society, why get married at all?

Damn, doesn't that sound like one of those questions in the Sex and the City column... yikes... I totally didn't mean for it to come off that way.

Who the hell knows the answer to that question?! I'm sure there are plenty of reasons... showing your love for each other in a public forum, religious commitments, etc. But so far, the only reason I can think of as to why I would want to get married is because I want to have the same last name as my child... oh yeah ... and Terry too hehehe. Not quite a ringing endorsement eh?

So for now, we'll wait at lest until Logan is old enough to witness it and I think of a better reason to go through with it in the first place.

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